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mercredi 14 octobre 2009

Omigosh. There's about 12 days left before the start of the O levels. OMG.

Really nervous. I feel pretty prepared, yet not prepared at all! How?

Anyway, I did an essay today. I thought it wasn't really good .On second thought, I decided to put it up here and see what you guys think about it.

Here goes...

Marriage

Marriage is a union between between individuals that creates kinship. This union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is usually wedlock. In my opinion, marriage is; and should be a beautiful intertwining of fates. It is supposed to cross the lives of two people, sometimes very different people. It is also supposed to last for eternity. Some people view marriages as a burden, while others find it as a lifelong commitment that brings them joy and laughter. But what brings two people together?

Scientific research has shown that opposites do attract. Recent findings published by the University of Parana, Brazil reported that people with diverse major histocompatibility complexes were more likely to choose each other as mates than those whose MHCs were similar, and that this was likely to be an evolutionary strategy to ensure healthy reproduction. This shows that biologically, humans have been “engineered” to be attracted to opposites of themselves. Therefore opposite personalities may be attracted to each other and eventually marry.

However, statistically, marriages between people who are more alike in attitudes tend to last longer. A report published in the journal, Personality and Individual Differences showed that people choose partners who were similar to themselves in terms of agreeableness, conscientiousness and openness. Thus, there was strong evidence that in the psychological point of view, marriages last longer when two similar people are married to each other. However Sanjay Srivastava, a psychologist at the University of Oregon offered an explanation for the phenomenon; perhaps the longer the couples stay together, the more they grow alike. In my opinion, people are not finding an opposite, or a like pole. We are all looking for a balance. No couple is made up of two people who are completely alike or different. I believe that couples who are fated to meet and marry are supposed to provide a balance. Humans are not born perfect, thus I believe that perfection is achieved when we marry the love of our lives. Husband and wife have to complement each other. Thus I believe that Fate brings two people together to fill up the empty half of each others’ lives.

It has also been said that there is no need for a reason to love someone. If a marriage is a phase in love, it probably does not have a reason either. Sometimes, all that is needed for a couple to get together is an opportunity. An example is the marriage between British actor Michael Caine and British model and actress, Shakira Baksh. Caine first saw Shakira in an advertisement for Maxwell House Coffee on television. The advertisement had been shot in Brazil and Caine was so struck by Shakira that he was prepared to fly there and meet her. With a little investigation, he realised that she lived only a few kilometres away from him. Eventually, they got married. They have already been married for 36 years. Thus, this example shows that sometimes, relationships between a couple may be sparked by a sudden impulse and such marriages; contrary to popular belief, can actually last – in this case 36 years. Thus, Fate still plays a part in bringing two people together, by providing the opportunity for two people to discover more about each other and in the end marry each other.

In conclusion, I feel that there are many different reasons why two people are attracted to each other and eventually marry. However, I believe that all these reasons are offshoots of one main root reason. Fate brings people – sometimes different, sometimes the same – together. In some couples, no matter how different they are – different religions, different races, different beliefs – they still manage to keep their relationship alive and continue running the marathon of marriage. In other couples, they seem to have telepathic minds and know what their other half is thinking without conversation. And in some couples, although they might have never met before, when they eventually do meet, they feel as if they have known each other for decades. Thus, I believe that Fate is the puppeteer of the emotion we call love and marriages are fated.

It's pretty short, compared to my typical essays. But Mr Tan warned me that writing really long essays may not be a good thing. And I had written a concise essay on "What do you enjoy most after school" (or something along that line) and I achieved a decent score (definitely above 22). So I guess, it's not really the length that matters. :D

Second thing on the agenda today. It's a piece of good news. TAYLOR SWIFT HAS BEEN NOMINATED FOR 6 AMAs! (You're getting hotter by the day babe.) ♥

Nominations:

• Favorite Female Artist – Country
• Favorite Album – Country
• Favorite Female Artist – Pop
• Favorite Album – Pop
• Adult Contemporary Music
• Artist of the Year

:D

Au Revoir

yongliang

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